Introduction

God established, instituted, and ordained marriage at the beginning of human history (Genesis 2,3). The purpose of this marriage policy is not to judge you, but to express what kind of marriage I can or cannot conduct based on my faith in Christ.

  1. Because of my faith in Christ and the biblical views I have on marriage, I will not promise my services to you as a couple until after I have met you.
  2. I believe that God instituted marriage and, as an institution, is subject to the rules and regulations set down by God in the Bible (Genesis 2:24).
  3. I believe what the Bible says that we should only marry in the Lord (2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1). If you are seeking marriage, you must be a church member who has shown a consistent testimony of living faith in Christ and true conversion. As a couple, you must have lived consistent Christian lives of worship and growth for at least one year before applying to be wed. If you are from another local church, I will require a letter of invitation and recommendation from the senior pastor of your home church.
  4. I believe that God’s plan for all marriages involves a monogamous relationship (Genesis 2:18-24). Polygamy is a departure from God’s plan for marriage (Leviticus 18:18; Deuteronomy 17:17; 1 Timothy 3:2). Based on this biblical truth, I will not allow, recognize, participate in, or support any polygamous marriages.
  5. I believe that God’s plan for all marriages involves a heterosexual relationship (Gen. 2:24). God has assigned marital roles at creation (Gen. 1:28), which are tied inherently and unalterably to gender. Same sex marriage distorts the creator’s biblical and traditional model of marriage and family (Lev. 18:22). Based on this biblical truth, I will not conduct same sex-marriage, if that is what you desire as a couple, and any other related unbiblical marriage arrangements which include at least lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and Queer (LGBTQ), I will not be able to conduct.
  6. I believe in the permanence of marriage because that is what the Bible teaches. (Genesis 2:24; Matt. 19:6). I will conduct a marriage for you as a couple, provided you believe in the permanence of marriage.
  7. I strongly believe that because divorce is a sin, it is forgivable. If you are divorced, I will conduct a marriage for you, provided:
  • You divorced according to the Biblical provisions, which are sexual unfaithfulness (Matt. 19:9) and abandonment (1 Cor. 7:15).
  • You have stayed single for at least a year after the divorce.
  • You provide proof that you have made every effort at reconciliation (where possible).
  • You desire to marry a fellow believer.
  • If you were the guilty party in the case of divorce, I will conduct a marriage for you, provided you give proof that you went under church discipline and have repented, displayed a life of transformation, and you have stayed single for at least one year and six months. Provide proof that you sought forgiveness not only from God but from your former spouse, children, relatives, and others involved, and that you have assumed obligations for child-support, if demanded by law.
  1. I believe that it is not wrong for widows and widowers to remarry. The Bible supports remarriage after the death of one’s spouse (Rom. 7:3b; 1 Timothy 5:14). I will conduct a marriage for you if you are a widow or widower on account that you have stayed single for at least one (1) year.
  2. I believe that it is not God’s will to have children outside of marriage, but when a child does already exist, then the adults involved are held accountable before a Holy God for the well-being of that child. If you had fallen into sexual sin, and the woman is pregnant, I will conduct a marriage for you on conditions that:
  • Both of you have gone under church discipline, and you have repented of your sin and displayed a life of transformation.
  • Both of you accept the pregnancy and understand the sanctity of life.
  1. I will not conduct a marriage ceremony for you as a couple if either of you is under the age of eighteen (18).
  2. I believe and honor parental consent, support, and marriage blessing (Genesis 24:1-61). Before I conduct your marriage, provide proof as a couple that you both have parental consent, support, and blessing.
  3. I believe that God calls everyone to premarital chastity and sexual morality, and He expects young men and women to bring to their marriages lives of purity (Genesis 24:64-65; 1 Cor. 6:19-20). I will conduct a marriage for you as a couple, provided you agree to premarital chastity and sexual morality before marriage.
  4. I will only conduct a marriage for you if you are from the same church denomination. I believe that a man and a woman entering marriage need a common or shared doctrine.
  5. I believe that incest (illicit marital relations between a man and woman who are relatives) is a sin before God (Leviticus 18:6). I will not conduct a marriage for you if there is proof that you are relatives.

Pre-marital Counselling

  • The first meeting will be meant for going through my marriage policy.
  • My counselling program requires a minimum of six (6) sessions with you as a couple together and one (1) session each with the bride and groom alone.
  • My counselling program requires a minimum of four (4) months to complete and should be completed one (1) month before the date of the wedding.
  • I expect all couples desiring to marry to have known each other and been dating each other for at least six months.
  • Please make sure you inform me six months before the wedding date.
  • Congratulations on the wonderful decision you have made! God bless you!

Cost of the Counseling Sessions

  • I am a Marriage and Family Life Evangelist, and I am pleased to offer free pre- and post-marital counseling to couples seeking guidance, growth, and strengthening in their relationships. My goal is to support healthy, Christ-centered marriages by providing biblical wisdom, practical tools, and a safe space for open and meaningful conversations.
  • These counseling services are offered freely, as a part of my ministry, serving and building families. However, for those who are willing and able, you may make a voluntary contribution of any amount to help support and sustain the program. Such contributions are not required but are deeply appreciated, as they enable my wife and me to continue serving more couples and families in need.
  • My wife and I look forward to walking alongside you on your journey toward a stronger and more fulfilling marriage.
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